When to have the talk with the guy your dating
Straight talk: there are two phrases that a woman can say that will instill ball-shrinking terror in the heart of every man.
The first is “We need to talk.” The second is “Where do you think this relationship is going?
It’s better to be honest about how you’re feeling than to hide it and end up hurt or disappointing one another because you had different ideas about the nature of your relationship.
One hard and fast rule though: if you haven’t had the exclusivity talk, you otherwise you risk getting hurt, even though you both may have had the best of intentions.
Side note: These guidelines are assuming that the frequency you’re seeing each other or talking is a mutual decision.
If one of you wants more than the other is providing, it’s better to talk it out earlier instead of letting the resentment grow.
If you’re talking every single day on the phone or over social media between the moments when your schedules line up, it moves the timeline for the DTR conversation slightly to “sooner”.