German singles dating advice
“In most places, if you’re past 35 and don’t have anyone in your life and live in a WG, you might feel like a bit of a loser,” says Emilie. “In Paris, getting into a relationship can make life easier and better.
As a couple, you can upgrade to a better flat, share expenses... Everything is already so easy; who needs to get a partner? It would have to be a very special person, maybe a once-in-a-lifetime thing if at all.” In 12 years in Berlin, she hasn’t crossed his path.
Living with someone ends up being more of a liability – an infringement on your great, free lifestyle.” Jeremy, 41, is a good-looking American with an academic background and an attractive social life – the type that doesn’t leave girls indifferent. As men grow picky, Berlin’s independent, career-oriented thirtysomethings lose their patience, refusing to waste time with losers who think they’re ‘the one’, but aren’t sure.
Yet, surprisingly, Jeremy has never had a proper relationship. “I’m so busy all the time these days,” says Inge, 32, an office administrator fresh from a go-nowhere fling with a co-worker.
“He had to go through at least 20 names before he found someone who wasn’t taken or gay. They always have that ex or that former relationship in the background, whether it’s ‘Occupied’... But then I realised he would never invite me to his openings.